They believes that they can help teachers to improve their relationships with students when teachers learn to recognize barrier behaviors and stop using them.
Tips- Builders (positive) - Barrier (negative)
1. Checking
Teachers can establish stronger relations with students if they check in advance to see how students think and feel about class expectations and other matters.
The barrier to avoid is teachers' assuming they know how students feel and then proceeding from that basis.
2. Exploring
Students relate better to teachers who allow them to explore and perceive situations for themselves and proceed accordingly.
The barrier to avoid is rescuing/explaining.
- Teachers erroneously think they are being helpful when they make lengthy explanations, rescue students from difficulties, or do some of students' work for them.
What they should do instead is ask students, "What do you need to remember, do, or have in order to take care of yourself?"
3. Inviting/Encouraging
To build a strong relationships, teachers should invite and encourage students to cooperate, contribute, and be self-directing.
- For example, they might say, "The bell will ring soon. I would appreciate anything you might do to help get the room straightened up for the next class."
The barrier to avoid is directing.
- Teachers do not realize they are being disrespectful when they do tell students, "Pick that up." "Put that away." "Straighten up your desk before the bell rings."
- Commands builds dependency while suppressing initiative and cooperation.
4. Celebrating
Teachers should hold high expectations of students and show they believe in students' potential. They should celebrate student progress that is made evident when students take initiative, make an effort, preserve, and improve.
The barrier to avoid is expecting. Students get easily discouraged when judged negatively because they have fallen short of expectations, as when teachers say, "I really thought you could do that" or "I thought you were more responsible than that."
5. Respecting
Respect does much to build teacher-student relationships.
- Teachers show respect when they speak with students as social equals and without using terms that suggest what students ought to do.
The barrier to avoid is the use of adult-isms, which are teacher statements that tell students what to do or that sound like parents speaking to naughty children: "How come you never...?" "Why can't you ever... ?" "I can't believe you would do such a thing!"
- Those adult-isms foster dependency and guilt rather than initiative and encouragement.
Tips- Builders (positive) - Barrier (negative)
1. Checking
Teachers can establish stronger relations with students if they check in advance to see how students think and feel about class expectations and other matters.
The barrier to avoid is teachers' assuming they know how students feel and then proceeding from that basis.
2. Exploring
Students relate better to teachers who allow them to explore and perceive situations for themselves and proceed accordingly.
The barrier to avoid is rescuing/explaining.
- Teachers erroneously think they are being helpful when they make lengthy explanations, rescue students from difficulties, or do some of students' work for them.
What they should do instead is ask students, "What do you need to remember, do, or have in order to take care of yourself?"
3. Inviting/Encouraging
To build a strong relationships, teachers should invite and encourage students to cooperate, contribute, and be self-directing.
- For example, they might say, "The bell will ring soon. I would appreciate anything you might do to help get the room straightened up for the next class."
The barrier to avoid is directing.
- Teachers do not realize they are being disrespectful when they do tell students, "Pick that up." "Put that away." "Straighten up your desk before the bell rings."
- Commands builds dependency while suppressing initiative and cooperation.
4. Celebrating
Teachers should hold high expectations of students and show they believe in students' potential. They should celebrate student progress that is made evident when students take initiative, make an effort, preserve, and improve.
The barrier to avoid is expecting. Students get easily discouraged when judged negatively because they have fallen short of expectations, as when teachers say, "I really thought you could do that" or "I thought you were more responsible than that."
5. Respecting
Respect does much to build teacher-student relationships.
- Teachers show respect when they speak with students as social equals and without using terms that suggest what students ought to do.
The barrier to avoid is the use of adult-isms, which are teacher statements that tell students what to do or that sound like parents speaking to naughty children: "How come you never...?" "Why can't you ever... ?" "I can't believe you would do such a thing!"
- Those adult-isms foster dependency and guilt rather than initiative and encouragement.